It’s in human nature to prove themselves right. No person will ever agree that they are wrong and the other person is right, they want to show that they are right in their own perspective. This is the reason why most get into arguments. No one is happy to accept the blame, especially if it is only partially their fault and partially the other persons.

Here is a little thing about repetitive actions; An action repeated enough number of times becomes a habit. And when a habit is followed for a particular period of time, becomes a part of character.

Consciously if I’m arguing with someone, and does this for quite some time with the same person, or another person, it becomes a part of my egoistic character. I would tend to argue even after I realize that I am wrong, just for the sake of proving I’m not wrong. Unconsciously, my conscious actions become who I am and would exhibit the same tendency throughout my life without even realizing it. Consciously I would keep in mind not to hurt the other person, whereas my subconscious mind may not have that awareness. I may think that we had a decent discussion and that the other person agreed to my perspective.

And here is a thing about perspective; No two people will ever share the same perspective, unless we find a way to put together their minds into a single one. Even if a person say that they agree 100% with me, it is not true. May be 99.99%, but 100% that the other person know the exact same thing as I do is not possible.

My perspective is based on the knowledge and experience I’ve acquired since the day I was born, up-until now. Unless the other person has the same knowledge and has gone through the same experiences as I have, our perspectives will never be the same. Now let us enter the blame game.

Let there be an incident where I am at fault partially and so is the other person. The faults may not be the same, however since I do not want to accept the fact that I may be wrong, I would try to put the blame on the other person. And since they also don’t want to be wrong, they would oppose my argument stating that I’m at fault. After a particular point, I would either give up, or just for the sake of not being wrong, I would start to use harsh words, thinking that if the other person gets hurt, they would stop arguing. However, since the other person also wants to prove they are not wrong, they would also start to use the same harsh words I’ve used just so that I can get hurt and give up. This would go on and on.

Like I said, repetitive actions becomes a part of our subconscious character. So if we know we can influence our subconscious character any way we want, is it not better to influence it in a positive way rather than a negative one? If I’m at fault, even partially, why not I simply accept the fact that I’m at fault and may correct the same in future? And I can also try to convey to the other person that I’m not fully responsible for the incident, and they have also played a part in it. I can even find peace in it, even if they are not ready to accept it, as I know it is their subconscious character who is stating that and even they do not have any control over that.